Getting Involved in Bullying Prevention
Technology has changed our lives in more ways than we can count. A lot of those changes are positive. Many tasks are easier. We can share information more quickly. It’s simpler than ever to stay connected. But it’s also easier than ever to send hurtful messages. In our digital age, preventing bullying has to be a top concern for students, teachers, and parents.
Bullying facts and statistics.
StopBullying.gov has some statistics that shed light on the state of bullying. One in every four students across the country experiences bullying between 6th grade and graduating high school. One in every ten of those students will experience cyberbullying. LGTBQ+ youth are particularly exposed – over half of them will be bullied online. And a staggering 70 percent of students say they’ve personally witnessed bullying at their school.
Bullying can take many forms. Most students experience social bullying or hurtful verbal interactions. While physical and online bullying are less common, they’re still prevalent in schools across the country.
But there is good news. Studies show that when someone sees bullying and steps in, the bullying comes to a stop within ten seconds over half of the time.
Preventing bullying.
So what can we do to prevent bullying in our schools and communities? As adults, it’s important to watch our kids. Many don’t report being bullied, and kids who are bullying are extremely unlikely to share than information with an adult. It comes down to being more aware of social situations. Is a previously engaged student suddenly withdrawn? He or she might be being bullied.
It’s also important to stay involved in what your kids are doing online. Set clear boundaries around time on the computer and sites that can be used. Try to check in about online activities.
Teaching and modeling kindness.
Whether you interact with students who are being bullied or bullying others, you can make a difference. For those being bullied, help them find their own self-worth. Teach them that kindness is powerful, and that fighting back only reduces them to the level of their bully. Give them tools to feel safe, like encouraging them to always walk around school with a buddy.
Whenever you see bullying happening, make sure your intervention is calm and respectful to both parties. Never force students to “rat each other out” in front of one another. It’s best to have private conversations with everyone involved to get everyone’s side of the story. Remember that most bullies bully because they struggle with low self-esteem. This is your opportunity to make a difference in a young person’s life.
Next steps.
Encourage the students in your life to be open about bullying. The faster it’s reported, the faster the people involved can get help to either feel safe or learn to be respectful of others. A young person’s self-esteem is critical. It deserves our protection. Don’t hesitate to get involved in bullying prevention.
If you want help with either a bullied student or a bully, we’re here. At the Ventura Counseling & Wellness Center, we’ve got a team of experts who can help everyone move past bullying into their happiest, healthiest selves. Contact us today.
