There’s always something exciting about January. It’s the start of a New Year, a clean slate!
That said, many are reluctant to welcome the New Year after the lows we experienced in 2020. Of course, the New Year comes with a lot of pressures. The topic of resolutions is always a big one. Whether it be learning a new skill, getting organized, reading more, etc., I’m sure we’ve all fallen into setting one of these and not following through.
The problem with resolutions
That’s okay — you are certainly not alone. 8% of individuals who make resolutions stick to them, while 80% fail by the start of February. But, let’s not get too wrapped up in that statistic. Instead, we’re focusing on something attainable instead of the typical resolution. (Though, if you find a resolution works for you, no judgement here, do what’s best for you!)
An alternative to the traditional resolutions are New Year’s intentions. When you set intentions, you’re making it clear to yourself what you will carry with you throughout the year. For example, if you decide one of your intentions is to be mindful throughout 2021, you may find yourself incorporating meditation, setting time to disconnect from technology, listening and asking meaningful questions when conversing with others, etc.
The perks of New Year’s intentions
There’s something special about setting an intention or multiple intentions. There’s excitement because you are on a journey instead of racing to a destination.
When you set a resolution, you’re working towards a destination. Maybe it’s reading twenty books throughout the year. But, what’s happening when you’re not reading? Do you feel like a failure? Does the resolution become a stressful task?
When you have an intention, you have that with you everyday, an opportunity to incorporate it into whatever you’re doing. Walking your dog, take a minute to breathe and be mindful. Put your phone down and notice what it feels like to walk and what you see around you.
How to set New Year’s intentions
If you’re confused how to set an intention, no worries. Start here: think about something you’d like in your life and write how exactly you plan to bring that change.
As we stick with our current example, I’ll say, “I want to enjoy each and everyday instead of worrying about tomorrow and things I cannot control.” We can then set the intention of being mindful and follow it with realistic actions to support that intention, like incorporating meditation or time off of your phone. Look for something attainable each day to honor your intention.
The secret to an intention, like anything, is one day at a time. If you miss a day, it doesn’t mean the intention is scrapped. Maybe the approach you’re taking isn’t working so it’s a chance to reset and find something that works for you. There’s a lot of growth that can come from an intention in a whole year!
We wish you a fulfilling year ahead no matter what your intention or internations may be!
If you’d like support with your intention or your mental health in the coming year, don’t hesitate to contact our team at the Ventura Counseling & Wellness Center.
